You Become the Story You Believe, on the POwer of story

WE BECOME THE STORIES WE BELIEVE
A program by Paschal Baute, adapted from Jim Loehr Power of Story.

1. Recognize the Diversity of Influences in Your Story. Parents, family, teachers, caches, ministers, friends, lovers, place where you grew up, stories you were told, or liked. See story program.

2. Identify your purpose, your ultimate mission (separate list)
Jump start? How do you want to be remembered,? Legacy, epitaph, Eulogy? What is worth dying for, What makes your life really worth living? Etc.

3. Facing the Truth: How functional / dysfunctional are your story? Inventory, what needs changing? See Personal History Questionnaire. Where are the areas you feel stuck, need work, prefer not to talk about, have some shame about? Be brutally honest..

4. Select a Story to work on. All the core stores of our lives need editing. Which of the stories selected in Step 3 cause you the most concern, grief, pain or misalignment with your Mission? This becomes your Training Mission: will you commit to work in the next 90 days?

5. Write the story you have been telling yourself that has allowed the misaligned to occur Include the faulty assumptions and logic (private inner voices) that permitted and encouraged this. For example, how have you made your stuck places okay to live with? Understand the Drama Triangle, ask for TA Checklist.

6. Read your old story. How does it make you feel? Stupid? Embarrassed? Shamed? Sick? Does it stir powerful feelings of disgust ? Can you see and feel how it has kept you stuck and shaped you in ways you do not want?

7. Appreciate the undeserved giftedness of your life up to now: life itself, love and kindness received., family, friends, teachers, parents, , siblings, opportunities taken (and passed), born in this country, at this time, with these chances., all that you have survived, whatever faith, hope or love has sustained you.

8. Write a New Story. Who will you become to achieve the success of your mission? Your new story should inspired you to take hope-filled action. It becomes your destiny. As with your old story, getting your new story right, will take several drafts, maybe over months.

9. Create new Rituals. Design new rituals to ensure that your new story becomes your destiny. These new rituals should address and embrace all aspect of your life, including diet, exercised, friendship, affection, meditation, etc., so that the rituals become habits and attitudes.

10. Cultivate accountability. Establish a daily log or record for the rituals you have committed to. This exercised trains the will to persist, to endure, not to slack off. Some kind of notebook or record keeping is important and will help stay the energy. Become obsessive about this. Review occasionally with a friend, and review periodically.